When do they grow up?

[BarbCA]

My eldest daughter, Joy lives with me. She has always had a bad temper but yesterday she outdid herself. Snapping and snarling and just being b****y.
I wish I could have sent her to her room for an attitude adjustment.. Can't do that when they're 59 years old.


Should have named her Misery.

[jostoy]

BarbCA, don't you have a rolling pin? (also known as an attitude adjuster)

[Paula A]

I hear you! One of the reasons I needed a place to speak my mind away from watchful eyes.

[Deborah]

Sometimes you think, thank God, they're doing well, and then they act in a way to completely and totally disappoint you.

[Kellie]

Sorry that you both have to deal with that Barb. I know it's so hard on you.

[determined]

Barb, sorry you have to deal with it. But seems that every adult child that lives with a parent goes through that sort of thing.

[Snoodle]

I too am sorry you have to deal with that Barb. You need a vacation.

[BarbCA]

Actually I will be very glad when an apartment comes vacant and we can go our separate ways. She has a place to go when we leave here but we just have to wait.
When she came to stay I thought she would do her usual find a boyfriend and go with him. For once it never happened so she has been here 10 years.
I realize her physical and mental problems are severe but I think she could at least be civil.
It would help if we could just talk but when it gets to that point she doesn't want to do that until I start yelling and demand she listen. Sometimes it actually works but I'm not a fighter and can't carry a grudge in my life.

[JoGee]

I fully understand, Barb. Sometimes the best thing in a relationship is some distance.

[Nalani]

(((((BARB))))) I hope that apartment becomes available soon. I am so glad I no longer have a house to worry and take care of anymore. But I still have Buddy and Bim to worry about but at least I have my own space.

[Punkin]

My kids don't live with me and I still have to put up with a lot of crap. I'm not sure that some kids ever grow up - they just grow old and the bad behavior grows old along with them. I know a little about what you're going through, Barb and I hate that you have to do that. You have to Be a great mom to put up with this for 10 years. People get angry with me for practicing toughlove, but there is no way that I could have either one of my kids living with me.

[JoGee]

Val, I'm a firm believer in Tough Love......if the kids decide to be out of control (of themselves, not you), no sense in letting them run roughshod over you! BTDT!