First some history, when my husband was 7 years old his Mom and Dad divorced, he said it was a nasty divorce also, that each and every time his Dad came or called his Mom was not a very nice person and he and his brother were always in the middle of it, so over time his Dad thought it best if he just gave up parental rights of them, which he did, so all of a sudden you no longer have a Dad, Grandparents, nothing...sad....then later she met a man named Gene and they married, funny thing is the last name was the same as they already had, he legally adopted my hubby and his brother and they then had a Father and Grandparents again...Later a little girl was born of this union so now there are three kids in the family, and for the next forty some years this is how it was, family gatherings, Grandparents taking them camping and other vacations...the Grandparents permanent home was on the lake so it was always fun to be there..then Grandma passed away and they all gathered in to make sure Grandpa knew he was loved and helped in any way they could. Oh yes, when he and Grandma married she had a son, so it was Grandpa's stepson which they really didn't get alone, so he left him $3,000 but Grandma had left instructions on what she wanted her son to have and Grandpa changed it.
Then Grandpa passes away and it is time for the will reading, etc. Granddaughter and hubby actually own a home across the road from his so they are able to keep watch over him and help when needed...she is also the one in charge when he passes away and is the executor. Well he had a life insurance policy and each grandchild got $20,000 and he had sisters in their 80's that he left $30,000 to, which one is in a nursing home and it has now made it very difficult for the family because she was in there for low income..well that was just his life insurance...now for his 'real monies and property', he left his home to the Granddaughter, his truck to her husband, and $330, 000 in cash to her, nothing for the 'step grandkids', my husband and his brother....and $3,000 to his stepson, the man that was my hubby's Father...this has hurt my husband to the core as well as me, I am having many sleepless nights because of it, I just do not understand how he could do that, all the years you thought you were a true grandchild you find that in his mind and heart you were not...as he stated in will, my blood granddaughter gets everything....
And now she says she can't wait to remodel the house and show everyone...can you say salt in the wound...hubby is not saying much but I know how much he hurts, he said, "well they lived there and helped him all the time", my reponse is, "not over $300,000 worth".... His sister was even with Grandpa when the will was done and 'she says' she tried talking him out of putting amounts down' but you know how stubborn he was...I think she saw $ dollar signs instead of love for her brothers...
Well that is what is going on in my life, I think my Mother in law is in shock also....but has yet to say anything..
I am very hurt also, even though he was not my Grandfather I thought of him as such, and to see my husband once again be put aside is killing me inside, because you see his adopted Father also left them when hubby was in his early 20's, just left them all for another woman...so it has been biological Father, adopted Father, now Grandfather....I am furious and I pray to take this hurt and anger away...
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